I've been with a guy for 3 and a half yrs. He has been married twice before. We got engaged after a year and should have got married in 2006 but ten weeks before the wedding he claimed I had changed and called it off. He has proposed a number of times since but I don't know if I would go there again! He is a perpetual liar. We have split up about 4 or 5 times and each time he advertises himself in the local personal columns as soon as he can.

After he cancelled the wedding he appeared in print after just 4 days! Everyone wonders why I keep going back (I wonder that myself!) We recently had another set back. Again he advertised himself and I found out that he told all the women he chatted to that his last relationship ended 5 years ago!! Having got back together last week, he's now keeping it a secret from his family and friends. He had an operation yesterday but because his sister is looking after him he is not keen for me to visit.

The problem here is not this guy. He's always going to be a pathetic loser. The problem here is why you keep going back to endure this horrible treatment from him. What's going on with you? This guy has been married twice before. Do you know why those marriages ended? Do you really think for one minute given your history that you're going to have a successful, happy relationship with this guy? Do you really think he's honest and won't lie to you?

You deserve better than this, girl! Now, he won't tell his family he's "gotten back together with you". That's because he's got something to hide -- like another woman, one that his family does know about. You are wasting your precious time with this guy! Dump him, change your number and don't have any contact with him again. He's a loser and it would be really sad if you let him drag you down, too!